Navigating the Paradox: Feeling Like Too Much, Yet Not Enough

Let’s talk about shame. That lump in your throat, burning in your chest, punch in the gut feeling. Simply put, shame is a feeling that there is something fundamentally wrong with who we are. The story that we tell ourselves about our shame can vary, but often includes the paradox of “I’m too much, yet not enough.” You might have a story about yourself that says “I’m too ___________ (sensitive, dramatic, needy, difficult to love, etc.)” but at the same time believe “I’m not ___________ (smart, worthy, good) enough.” This can be especially common for folks who are Highly Sensitive, neurodivergent, or those who have experienced trauma.

If you experience chronic shame, therapy can be a space where you:

• Learn to identify and externalize feelings of shame, and corresponding narratives 

• Foster a safe, secure therapeutic relationship where you can practice bearing witness to shame, with the support of another person

• Explore the origins of shame, and its maintaining factors (i.e.: unhealthy relationships, oppressive systems, etc.)

• Build self-compassion skills that help you respond to shame in a new way

• Befriend any parts that are afraid to let go of shame

• Learn to differentiate guilt vs. shame, and gain tools for sustainable behavioral change that is aligned with your values

• And more, depending on your specific goals!

If you struggle with chronic shame, negative self talk, or low self esteem, reach out today for a free phone consultation!